I used to think black + white thinking is a bad thing. ❌
We’ve been taught this ‘splitting’ is a cognitive distortion, a failure in our thought patterns, a symptom of mental disorder that we must fix. 🧠
I used to think it was a “broken” part of me, something I needed help to change.
But what if we see it as a positive? 🌝
Instead, it allows me to clearly see what is right & wrong. To know what I like & what I do not like. It allows me to be true to myself & my deepest values. 🙏🏼
Today, I see my black + white thinking as one of my greatest strengths.
This lightbulb moment came when I read Greta Thunberg’s book, ‘No One Is Too Small To Make A Difference’ (2019). 📖
Greta talks about her own black + white thinking. She sees it as a positive, a superpower, which helps her tell the truth around the climate crisis. 🌍
Greta inspired me to reframe my own experiences.
I now see my strong views as similarly empowering, rather than something to be labelled, diagnosed & fixed. There is no grey area when it comes to trauma & abuse. We need a world that stands up alongside us, not one that labels & dismisses us, ignoring the very valid reasons behind our thinking.
Yes, sometimes it’s helpful to find the grey area. I don’t always need to eat the perfect meal for lunch, and it can be OK to forgive people. Learning when to soften has given me more space to focus on the really important things.
And with the help of my black + white thinking, the important things are clearer than ever. ✨
We don’t need fixing, but together we can make the systemic change we need. Nobody is too small to make a difference.
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